4 Sep 2002
Counselors Cautioning Against Forced Participation In Memorials
DALLAS—As the anniversary of 9/11 approaches, officials in the Dallas Independent School District are reminding parents, teachers and administrators that memories associated with the tragic attacks on America last year can still be troubling to students, and that forced participation in memorial events could be harmful and bring about additional adverse reactions.
"No one should be compelled to participate in any of the 9/11 memorial activities," said Rosemarie Allen, associate superintendent for student support and special services. "It is important that those who wish to take part have the opportunity, but just as important we do not force those who do not wish to participate. We are watching the situation closely and have counseling teams ready to act if necessary."
Allen said parents and teachers may visit a special website with tips advising parents to be mindful of the following activities and issues in recognizing the significance of 9/11:
• Reactions will vary from child-to-child depending upon a variety of factors including their personality, age, developmental level and personal history.
• When thinking about how to talk to your children, take your cues from them in terms of what they need and what they are thinking and feeling.
• Start by checking in with your children and listening to their concerns.
There is no "best way" to react to or acknowledge the anniversary of 9/11.
• Talking about the memorial events can be a means to help children better understand the world and can further the process of healing and learning.
• Not all children will appear to be affected by these events, and for some children, especially younger children, it may not be appropriate to "force the issue" if they are not aware of or concerned about the anniversary.
• Children who were directly impacted by the events of September 11 or who have had a history of loss or trauma are most vulnerable.
•Helping children deal with a difficult event is hard work-parents should seek help and support when needed.
Some of the tips the district is using come from the National Center for Children Exposed to Violence—www.nccev.org—and are being incorporated into materials that are being distributed in the district.
"It is important that people understand we are not discouraging 9/11 memorial activities, but we are encouraging care in how we handle the upcoming activities," Allen said.